Sweetening an offer with words

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Sellers with an emotional attachment to their home may consider an offer from a buyer who writes a letter over those that come in from builders or developers who want to flip the house.

The Johns, whose offer was accepted, bid about $100,000 below the $1.25 million asking price. The seller had similarly priced offers from investors and builders, but the Johns were the only ones who wrote a letter.

“I think that’s what set us apart, because [the seller] realized we were looking for a home for our family and we would continue to love his house like his family would,” Trevor John says.

Gus Papaioannou, an agent with Realosophy Realty in Toronto, has encouraged buyers to include personal notes with offers. For those who don’t, Papaioannou will often write a few paragraphs himself, explaining who the buyers are and why they like the home.

When he tours properties with clients, he takes note of what they find attractive — perhaps the home’s high ceilings — and he’ll mention that with the offer.

And, while a personalized letter might not make a difference when the competition includes a dozen other buyers, it can be the deciding factor if you’re one of just a few, says Tom Storey, an agent with Royal LePage in Toronto who represented the Johns.

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Write an effective letter to a seller

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While not all sellers read buyer appeals, and fewer consider their contents, the step has worked for some buyers who are able to establish an emotional connection with the homeowner.

Storey says letters should always be personally addressed to the seller and he recommends buyers express their intentions with the house.

They could be competing with a builder who wants to tear it down, and some sellers will favour a buyer who plans to preserve and live in their home, and perhaps raise a family there.

Melissa Alexander Kee of Re/Max Professionals in Toronto encourages her clients to write letters emphasizing how much they love the neighbourhood and how they can picture themselves living in the home they’re bidding on.

“It always tugs on the seller’s heartstrings,” Kee says. But, in her experience, that emotional tug is typically where it ends.

“It usually comes down to the amount of money," she says.

Is it business or personal?

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Sellers sometimes tell their agents that price is the only thing that matters. When you write the seller a letter, you have to accept that its ability to make a difference is out of your hands.

Some sellers view the sale of their home as a business transaction and aren’t interested in reading letters.

Buyers’ agents are expected to show their clients any and all offers, but sellers who don’t want to be swayed by emotions will draw a hard line.

“There are some selling agents who have said to me, ‘Don’t worry about the letter. They’re going to be basing the decision on price,’” says Papaioannou.

Still, he's seen cases when a personal note helped buyers.

About a year ago, Papaioannou had clients who were bidding on a Toronto townhouse priced in the $700,000 range. Their bid was about $10,000 below the highest offer, but they won the house.

The sellers said they were “moved by the letter,” Papaioannou says.

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Why stop at a letter?

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If you're concerned the sellers won't read your letter, perhaps try a video. They might just watch it.

These days, some buyers are applying a higher-tech approach to the traditional love letter.

“Video is the next thing that’s slowly taking over,” Storey says. “If there’s five-to-ten offers on a property, and they get one that has a video, they're probably going to want to watch it.”

The videos Storey’s seen tend to be less than a minute long and are usually made on smartphones. Prospective bidders will talk about their families and why they love the house and neighbourhood.

Jennifer John decided to write a letter because she’d read an article about a couple with a newborn who submitted a letter and got the house for less than what others had offered. While her husband insisted it would be all about the bottom line, she says, "I thought, what’s the harm in trying?”

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Nancy Sarnoff

Nancy Sarnoff

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Nancy Sarnoff is a senior reporter and editor at MoneyWise. Previously, she covered commercial and residential real estate for the Houston Chronicle where she also hosted Looped In, a podcast about the region’s growth, development and economy. Her work has been recognized by the National Association of Real Estate Editors and the Society of American Business Editors and Writers.

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